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Adoption is complex and unique to each person walking through the experience. However, there are common questions as people start to explore what adoption might look like for them. Below are some questions and answers that often come up. We hope these are helpful!

Can birth parents change their minds at any time and remove the child from the adoptive family?
Birth parents placing a child through Adoption Options are making a voluntary and permanent decision. Once the court has issued final orders of relinquishment, the birth parents can no longer change their decision unless there is a proven case of fraud or duress. That being said, because of the voluntary nature of infant adoptions, most cases involve a short period of legal risk.

Are there healthy infants who are placed for adoption?
Most of the infants placed for adoption are healthy. Adoption Options’ counselors gather as much social and medical information from the birth parents as possible. This information includes family history of genetic conditions, prenatal substance exposure, and the extent of prenatal care. Adoption Options shares any and all known risk factors with perspective adoptive families.

Do birth parents have any say in the adoption plan?
Birth parents are an integral part of the adoption plan. Adoption Options works with each birth parent to create an individualized and personal adoption plan. Birth parents have the opportunity to select the adoptive family, meet that family, and to be part of the placement ceremony. If the birth parents do not wish to be part of that process, Adoption Options can choose the adoptive family on their behalf.

Will birth parents always regret their decision?
Birth parents receive extensive counseling about their decision and are comforted by knowing that they have made the best decision for themselves and their child. More often, regret stems from the unfortunate circumstances surrounding their inability to parent, rather than the decision to place their child for adoption. Counseling is available through Adoption Options for as long as the birth parents feel it is needed.

What age are birth mothers?
The average age of birth parents we work with is 26. Since 1981, Adoption Options has counseled birth mothers as young as 12 and as old as 43.

Are people under 18 able to place their children for adoption without their parents’ permission?
Although the “age of competence” in Colorado is 18 for many decisions, it is not so when it comes to birth and parenting. Any biological parent, regardless of age, is considered an adult under the law and has the right to make independent decisions about their child. Legally, the only person who can make the decision to parent, or to place a child for adoption, is that child’s biological parent, not extended family or other interested parties.

Why do birth parents choose to place their child for adoption?
Birth parents love their babies. They make incredibly brave and unselfish decisions to place their children with adoptive families in order to give them the opportunity to have better lives than they feel they can provide.

Are birth parents irresponsible and abusing drugs and alcohol?
The mere fact that an expectant parent seeks to make a plan of adoption says a lot about his or her strength of character. It takes responsibility and courage to pursue a plan of adoption. Some expectant parents do use substances or have in the past. Discussing this kind of complex situation is one of the important tasks of the counseling process.

Do birth fathers have rights if they're not married to the birth mother?
Birth fathers have rights whether or not they are married to the birth mother. Adoption Options must make every effort to locate the birth father and inform them of the plan of adoption. Fathers do have a say in the placement of their child. They may participate in the plan of adoption or they may choose to parent their child. Should a birth father not agree with the adoption plan, in most cases, he will be required to take a paternity test to prove that he is the biological father.

Does social services always get involved in every adoption?
If there is a plan of adoption (voluntary relinquishment), social services doesn't need to get involved. If there are concerns or indications of abuse, neglect, or serious concerns about the safety of the child, the birth parent counselor may initiate a report to social services. However, even if a report is made, as long as the birth parents wish to follow through on their adoption plan, social services will usually allow them to continue to work with Adoption Options to make the best decision for themselves and their child.

Does open adoption mean that identifying information such as last names and addresses are shared?
We believe that relationships take time to develop. If the relationship between a birth family and an adoptive family grows to the point that all parties feel comfortable sharing identifying information, that is their choice. Adoption Options never shares identifying information unless and until it is agreed upon by all parties.

What types of families adopt minority children?
Families of all different races are interested in adopting minority children. Both white and minority families may adopt trans-racially, and there are many adoptive families for these babies. Adoption Options recruits all types of adoptive families to make adoption available to all racial groups. While trans-racial adoption should be carefully considered, such adoptions can create healthy, happy, and stable families.

Are all adoption agencies created equal?
They are not! In Colorado, all adoption agencies are licensed by the state department of human services. Anyone may access an adoption agency’s licensing file and review its status. An adoptive family may also wish to consider the agency’s longevity, its reputation, the number of placements made per year, its accreditation, and its philosophical perspective. Cost is also obviously a big factor. Request a breakdown of all costs. Inquire whether there are additional costs and if so, what those are. Choose an agency you feel you can partner with in your adoption journey.

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